The
Book of second Samuel
Chapter 13
[1] And it came to pass after this, that Absalom the
son of David had a fair sister, whose name was Tamar; and Amnon the son of
David loved her.
[2] And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar; for she was
a virgin; and Amnon thought it hard for him to do any thing to her.
[3] But Amnon had a friend, whose name was Jonadab, the son of Shimeah David's
brother: and Jonadab was a very subtil man.
[4] And he said unto him, Why art thou, being the king's son, lean from day to
day? wilt thou not tell me? And Amnon said unto him, I love Tamar, my brother
Absalom's sister.
[5] And Jonadab said unto him, Lay thee down on thy
bed, and make thyself sick: and when thy father cometh to see thee, say unto him,
I pray thee, let my sister Tamar come, and give me meat, and dress the meat in
my sight, that I may see it, and eat it at her hand.
[6] So Amnon lay down, and made himself sick: and when the king was come to see
him, Amnon said unto the king, I pray thee, let Tamar my sister come, and make
me a couple of cakes in my sight, that I may eat at her hand.
[7] Then David sent home to Tamar, saying, Go now to thy brother Amnon's house,
and dress him meat.
[8] So Tamar went to her brother Amnon's house; and he was laid down. And she
took flour, and kneaded it, and made cakes in his sight, and did bake the
cakes.
[9] And she took a pan, and poured them out before him; but he refused to eat.
And Amnon said, Have out all men from me. And they went out every man from him.
[10] And Amnon said unto Tamar, Bring the meat into the chamber, that I may eat
of thine hand. And Tamar took the cakes which she had made, and brought them
into the chamber to Amnon her brother.
[11] And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he took hold of her, and
said unto her, Come lie with me, my sister.
[12] And she answered him, Nay, my brother, do not force me; for no such thing
ought to be done in Israel: do not thou this folly.
[13] And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go? and as for thee, thou shalt
be as one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, I pray thee, speak unto the
king; for he will not withhold me from thee.
[14] Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but, being stronger than she,
forced her, and lay with her.
1) Infatuation (Vs 1-14)
Amnon fell sick in lust for his beautiful half sister
Tamar
But Amnon felt
restrained for him to do anything to her.Restraints-What kept Amnon from acting
out his feelings
A. Reputation
Amnon is the eldest son of the
king... the son of Ahinoam.... the Crown Prince
He is respected and looked up to
B. Reverence and Education
Amnon knows the law of God... Lev
18:9,11; 20:17
Amnon knew what God says about
sin
Amnon could not live with the guilt
of such actions.... she was a virgin
C. Right Friend
But his friend Jonadab laid all
restraints aside
“Jonadab was a very subtil
man” He was cunning, crafty and wicked
(even a cousin)
Amnon had
perverted feelings and may not have acted them out, but he had a friend
That fix of drugs, that alcoholic
beverage, that immorailty may not be acted out, but......
Amnon pretends to be sick and asks that Tamar come in
beside his bed and feed him her bakeries
Amnon took her and she trying to prevent him was forced
and raped by Amnon
[15] Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated
her was greater than the love wherewith he had loved her. And Amnon said unto
her, Arise, be gone.
[16] And she said unto him, There is no cause: this evil in sending me away is
greater than the other that thou didst unto me. But he would not hearken unto
her.
[17] Then he called his servant that ministered unto him, and said, Put now
this woman out from me, and bolt the door after her.
[18] And she had a garment of divers colours upon her: for with such robes were
the king's daughters that were virgins apparelled. Then his servant brought her
out, and bolted the door after her.
[19] And Tamar put ashes on her head, and rent her garment of divers colours
that was on her, and laid her hand on her head, and went on crying.
[20] And Absalom her brother said unto her, Hath Amnon thy brother been with
thee? but hold now thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; regard not this
thing. So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house.
[21] But when king David heard of all these things, he was very wroth.
[22] And Absalom spake unto his brother Amnon neither good nor bad: for Absalom
hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister Tamar.
2)
Indignation (Vs 15-22)
A. Amnon
After this rape of his half
sister Amnon hated her exceedingly... LUST & GUILT
Not love, but lust, for real love
is patient and kind and true love never fails I Cor 13:8
Amnon throws her out, bolting the
door.... This a result of an indulgent
father named David
B. Tamar
She felt the violation and pain
of being forced....she puts ashes on her head and rends her garment
This evil is worse (Vs 16)
(Provisions Ex 22:16,17) Now she would never fell in love
She never got married and had no
family
She was scarred forever
C Absalom
A brother of Tamar and ˝ brother
of Amnon, also in line for the throne, sought revenge
Absalom hated his ˝ brother Amnon
D. David
David was very wroth, but did
nothing to bring chastisement
[23] And it came to pass after two full years, that Absalom had sheepshearers
in Baal-hazor, which is beside Ephraim: and Absalom invited all the king's
sons.
[24] And Absalom came to the king, and said, Behold now, thy servant hath
sheepshearers; let the king, I beseech thee, and his servants go with thy
servant.
[25] And the king said to Absalom, Nay, my son, let us not all now go, lest we
be chargeable unto thee. And he pressed him: howbeit he would not go, but
blessed him.
[26] Then said Absalom, If not, I pray thee, let my brother Amnon go with us.
And the king said unto him, Why should he go with thee?
[27] But Absalom pressed him, that he let Amnon and all the king's sons go with
him.
[28] Now Absalom had commanded his servants, saying, Mark ye now when Amnon's
heart is merry with wine, and when I say unto you, Smite Amnon; then kill him,
fear not: have not I commanded you? be courageous and be valiant.
[29] And the servants of Absalom did unto Amnon as Absalom had commanded. Then
all the king's sons arose, and every man gat him up upon his mule, and fled.
3)
Invitation (Vs 23-29)
Absalom waits 2 years and
arranges a plot to deceive the family and kill Amnon
Absalom became bitter, a murderer
and rebel
Ambitious, he one day drove his
father off the throne and will die at the hands of Joab
Amnon, the son of the king with a great future ahead
lives briefly with guilt
Then is murdered by his ˝ brother
Absalom and all the royal family runs away
The
testimony of a God serving family is corrupted (causing
enemies to blaspheme)
[30] And it came to pass, while they were in the way, that tidings came to
David, saying, Absalom hath slain all the king's sons, and there is not one of
them left.
[31] Then the king arose, and tare his garments, and lay on the earth; and all
his servants stood by with their clothes rent.
[32] And Jonadab, the son of Shimeah David's brother, answered and said, Let
not my lord suppose that they have slain all the young men the king's sons; for
Amnon only is dead: for by the appointment of Absalom this hath been determined
from the day that he forced his sister Tamar.
[33] Now therefore let not my lord the king take the thing to his heart, to
think that all the king's sons are dead: for Amnon only is dead.
[34] But Absalom fled. And the young man that kept the watch lifted up his
eyes, and looked, and, behold, there came much people by the way of the hill
side behind him.
[35] And Jonadab said unto the king, Behold, the king's sons come: as thy
servant said, so it is.
[36] And it came to pass, as soon as he had made an end of speaking, that,
behold, the king's sons came, and lifted up their voice and wept: and the king
also and all his servants wept very sore.
[37] But Absalom fled, and went to Talmai, the son of Ammihud, king of Geshur.
And David mourned for his son every day.
[38] So Absalom fled, and went to Geshur, and was there three years.
[39] And the soul of king David longed to go forth unto Absalom: for he was
comforted concerning Amnon, seeing he was dead.
4)
Inclination (Vs 30-39)
David is told that Absalom has killed all the
kings sons. David believes it and is crushed
Jonadab comes and says that only Amnon is
dead because Absalom has taken vengeance(Pr24:11)
The royal family weeps, Absalom flees and
David has no contact with him for 3 years
Regrets of Choosing the Wrong Friends
a. Needle marks, loss of brain cells, abortion,
a. Girl w/ prom date and died in drunken accidents
b. Girl w/ NASA job And drugs blew brain cells
Remedy
A. What a Friend we have
in Jesus
B. Jn 4 “Come see a man”
1. Sought her out, stood face
to face w/sin, straightened her out, satisfied w/ living water
2. Sent her with a story to tell
3. There is a friend
that sticketh closer than a brother
4. Greater love hath no man
than this than a man would lay down his life for his friends
5. “Took care of my bill”
C. Jn 8 the woman taken in
the act of adultery
Her accusers would
have stoned her
But the Friend,
Jesus, forgave her and told her to go and sin no more
Conclusion: Young folks choose wisely, be a good friend,
parents pray for your young people and be a friend